Welcome back Sweetie! Thank you for continuing on this last mini journey of the year with me to learn about mental abuse. In my previous blog post, I shared “How I Was Mentally Abused for Over Ten Years” so if you haven’t had a chance to read it, go read it and meet me back here. While your situation with mental abuse may feel like it’s on repeat and while you may be wondering “Will the Mental Abuse Ever End”, I would like to share some positive insight with you.
Mental abuse can steal your identity and try to keep you in a cycle that will play on repeat every day. Thankfully help is available and the cycle of mental abuse can be broken!
In my previous blog post I shared how the mental abuse I experienced caused me to feel like I was living on a battlefield, fighting in silence alone with each passing day. It was hard to see a way forward and I often wondered if it would ever end and if I would ever experience brighter days.
Living with mental abuse for over a decade was a hard road to travel and while I couldn’t see a way out, I knew that I didn’t want to continue to feel the pain.
While many people will use things like drugs, sex and alcohol to cope with their negative life situations I tried too as well. Drugs gave me a bad roll and I almost died, alcohol poisoned me and over time I realized that they were temporary fills.
No matter what I tried, the pain did not leave. After I survived to see a new day, the pain remained, and I was still on the battlefield alone.
It’s really amazing the lengths a person will go to spare themselves from embarrassment by hiding behind a fake persona but won’t go the distance to be set free from the negative circumstances they encounter.
Even though I was being mentally abused, I didn’t take the steps to move forward because I didn’t want to be alone and I didn’t want my kid’s life to be ruined, but by staying I was already ruining their life and corrupting myself.
Hoping that things would improve was false hope I fed myself and it made me sick.
Maybe you’re feeding yourself the same false hope I ate? If so, be careful Sweetie, false hope has an expiration date.
There’s nothing wrong with being hopeful but when you’re eating false hope, it can make you very sick.
While my kids father claimed that “no one” would love me the way he does and that I wouldn’t ever find anyone like him, he really made me question if what he was telling me was true. The issue with me questioning his comment was that I was so blinded by his mental abuse toward me that I couldn’t see the truth and make sense of his comments and it kept me there.
When I was no longer bound by the restraints of mental abuse and received help to move forward, his comments were true. No one would love me the way he does because what he claimed to be “love” is NOT love. Telling me that I wouldn’t ever find anyone like him was also true because I don’t plan on being with or affiliated with anyone like him.
Are you afraid that if you leave, you’ll be alone or won’t be able to survive without them?
Is there something that’s keeping you in your cycle of abuse?
Sweetie, please know that no matter how long you have been dealing with mental abuse, you can be set FREE!
You can make a decision right now to no longer be bound by the abuse and begin to seek help. Help is available and you don’t have to be afraid that you may be alone or won’t be able to survive without them.
The fact that you’re here reading this blog post speaks volumes! It may be a small step, but you took a step to find resources and I urge you to keep going!
Don’t stop and don’t give up on moving forward to the brighter days. They’re there and while you may not be able to see them yet, they are there, they’re coming so keep pressing forward and don’t allow anyone including yourself to hold you back.
Isaiah 41:13 says, “For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, do not fear; I will help you”.
If you’re feeling embarrassed to seek help because you don’t want anyone to know the kind of mess you’re involved in, I urge you to go the distance to be set free from your negative circumstances.
Are you not worth going the distance for?
Whether you realize it or not, you are worth going the distance for and God will go the distance for you because He LOVES you!
Give all of your worries and pain over to Him and allow Him to make a way forward for you.
As we journey into our last blog post of the year, I would like to share with you some tips and resources on how you can stop mental abuse and live a better life.
If you know anyone that would like to join us as we close out this mini journey, feel free to invite them along.
Structural Support
If you would like additional support and more tools to help you begin moving forward, I created a course called, “How to Live Your Best Life, When Rock Bottom is Your Current Status”. If you’re ready to take the course, head over to the home page of my website to enroll now.
It would be an honor to help you through this journey of life and I’ll continue to be here providing helpful resources for you and anyone you know that would be interested or encouraged by it.
I’ll see you in the next blog post Beautiful!